Who wants peace at Christmas anyway?

Are you ready for Christmas?’ >  “If I hear that question one more time I will go stark raving bonkers”, blurted out one of our therapists this week. Hardly a good advert for the peace and calm which Tonic tries to exude, but his point is well made.

Maybe to achieve peace at Christmas we need to emulate great people. Benjamin Franklin would start his day by asking himself, “What good shall I do this day?” Likewise Apple’s Steve Jobs had a similar approach, asking himself  “If today were the last day of my life, what would I want to do and am I about to do it today?”

Sadly, in our helter-skelter world such a philosophical outlook on life is a luxury. And yet newspapers are full of platitudes. An example from today is  …. ‘ in the run up to Christmas you need more than ever to start your day as you mean to go onIf you begin today with barely controlled chaos, it will be become increasingly challenging as the day dragged on’.

Readers are told that the solution is to develop a morning ritual.

Sound advice, but we live in the real world. A world where there are meals to cook, things to buy, reindeer to feed, a commute from hell and an elderly relative coming to stay in the kid’s bedroom.

Go for a peaceless Christmas

… and another thing,” added our ranting therapist, “I can’t take any more inane advice on how to lead my life”.

Well, that is the Daily  Mail subscription cancelled, and yet our Jeremy Clarkson sounding colleague speaks for the majority. We are deluged day in day out with people telling us what to do and how to lead a perfect life, have a perfect body and so on.

Any psychotherapist preaching that  … Preparation is key to making a good start to your pre-Christmas days – so calm starts depend on organisation the night before … deserved to be clobbered by a hurled mindfulness book*.

The fact is that Christmas IS chaos. That is what makes it fun. It is things not going right that will make the day memorable.

Enjoy being you, warts and all

We mere mortals don’t need lectures on how to be mad. So leave all these New Age life gurus to bore each other to death in their sanctimoniously perfect Christmas Days.

Instead set out to enjoy the madness of the world and the primitive lunacy of your family. Roll out the chaos, let the arguments begin and have a madcap Christmas like no other.

If the neighbours complain, who cares? Either invite them to join in the mayhem or give them Tonic’s phone number for some Christmas therapy.

Footnote  > * Don’t make the mistake of buying a mindfulness book as a Christmas present, as the inference is that the recipient is not happy. Better to inspire him/her with inspiration for a change of lifestyle, such as how to become a steampunk! Or what about a present to lift the spirits, such as a lightcane?

 

7 thoughts on “Who wants peace at Christmas anyway?

  1. Mrs Iris Evans says:

    Love your raw pragmatic advice. Thank God people can still laugh at themselves. And you are right – tomorrow will be equally chaotic as today so live with it. Focus instead on inspirational people.

    • You Tonic people don’t seem a peaceful bunch so don’t hold your breath waiting from a call from me. Far better (and cheaper) to have some guided meditation, Zazen seated meditation or Yoga Nidra to restore sanity to my life. Take a few moments to be still and live a little longer.

  2. Ken-the-Boy says:

    Not sure about your sideways swipe at mindfulness. What is wrong with taking time out to approach your day in a mindful and positive way. Take time to get off to a good start – that way you’ll be ready to take whatever the day throws at you.

  3. Since when did it become wrong to plan in peace and quiet to think over the coming day, eat well, meditate before the chaos of the day is unleashed?

  4. You Tonic people don’t seem a peaceful bunch so don’t hold your breath waiting from a call from me. Far better (and cheaper) to have some guided meditation, Zazen seated meditation or Yoga Nidra to restore sanity to my life. Take a few moments to be still and live a little longer.

  5. The morning can be a good time to do yoga stretches or go for a run to clear your head and raise your endorphin levels.

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