You are not inadequate – you are human > In an age when we are bombarded by images of perfect people, it is too easy to slip into a mind-set of inadequacy. This can easy lead to a downward spiral into a fear of imperfection where you lose self-confidence, are over self-conscious and wary of making contact with ‘superior ‘people. This phobia even has a name – Atelophobia.
Imperfection fear is a psychological condition that can blight lives. If this is you, then you will know only too well how you worry about making mistakes, or that your imperfections will be ridiculed. You will know that overwhelming feeling of anxiety and nervousness that makes you sick to your stomach and can even result in a fear-induced paralytic panic attack.
The first thing to understand is that you are not alone as fear of imperfection is very common. Secondly, like any unwarranted automated fear response it can be easily be treated. It is just another phobia which Tonic’s therapists are ideally trained to handle.
We find nearly all Atelophobes who seek help can trace their feelings back to specific events in their lives, such as a domineering parent or teacher who has undermined their confidence at a vulnerable age.
But the cause is nowhere near as important as the cure. There are plenty of anti-anxiety drugs on the market – though no specific one for imperfection phobia – and unfortunately all of them can have side effects plus mask general symptoms, making sufferers mistakenly think they are cured.
Before resorting to drugs it is much better to try psychological therapy. The NHS recommends many talking therapies, plus there is no shortage of complementary therapists offering anything from anchoring and cognitive therapy, to tapping and desensitisation treatments. Better still there is much you can do in the form of self-help, so ask your doctor to be put in touch with a local support group or, if one is not available, start on the road to recovery by discussing your condition with an empathetic friend.
Find what works best for you and if all else fails remember that Tonic’s therapists are available 24/7 to help you master your inadequacy fears. We’ll massage your ego to ensure you never again have a dizzy spell, dry mouth, muscle tension, hyperventilation, trembling, rapid heartbeat, feeling a loss of control or any feeling of impending disaster. And as Salvador Dali said … “Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it!”